How I got my literary agent!

This post is something I’ve been dreaming about writing for over a year, so you know what that means?

I’m going to be LONG WINDED!

I learned a LOT along the way, so pull up a seat and settle in, because Aunt Dee’s gonna tell you all about it…

So I revised my manuscript last May and then began querying for about a month until I realized that my manuscript was just not strong enough yet.

You see, I subscribed to the rule of send out more queries every time you get a request because that means it’s working. It’s not always a bad theory, that is until you start getting form rejection after form rejection on your fulls, which is agent speak for “I stopped reading because it didn’t keep my interest.” Yeah.

Do you know what a form on a full feels like? Like this:

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Then something exciting occurred, I got an R&R (or in layman’s terms: an agent who says this is what I didn’t like about it, why don’t you try to fix it and then I’ll read it again). I totally agreed with her thoughts and so I immediately pulled my manuscript from consideration from the remaining agents who hadn’t gotten back to me and started working on it, but I was having a lot of trouble trying to fix certain areas of the book.

It wasn’t until I decided to enter #pitchwars and was selected and then mentored by the amazingly talented Trisha Leigh, who gave me such a comprehensive edit letter, that I kicked back into full gear. This book became an entirely different beast than the one before. I added almost 20k words, combined characters, changed up plot points, etc. It was a total overhaul!

I ended up getting several requests out of that contest and then additional requests in #pitmad a few weeks later. Then I began querying (not as widely this time) and got a really encouraging response on that as well.

I had silence for most of January. Just nothing but crickets in my inbox. I had basically stopped querying in December, so I was twiddling my thumbs, waiting on responses to requested materials.

Then, one afternoon an email from an agent I was really thinking would be a good fit pops up. Negative nancy over here immediately assumed that it was a rejection. I was already mentally preparing myself for the epic pity party I was about to throw myself because I had really thought that my manuscript would be right up her alley.

I took a deep breath and clicked on the email.

It was only 2 paragraphs… totally a rejection.

BUT THEN I READ IT! In those two paragraphs she gushed about my book and my characters and then told me she wanted to set up a call.

So what did I do?

I started balling my eyes out.

I called my husband and not being one to normally resort to tears, he immediately thought someone had died. It took him a few minutes to calm down from the scare and then he started crying too 🙂 I then called my mom and my sister (who cried), texted my CP’s and just jumped around all night long and consumed some champagne.

We had our call the next morning and we absolutely clicked. We laughed a lot and she GOT my book and my characters. It was like oxygen to my soul to hear her discuss Aniq and Willow like they were real people. Her vision for the book really echoed my own and it just felt right.

Ahhh! I probably talked way too much and interrupted too much (I do that when I’m nervous), but in the end, I didn’t scare her off because she offered representation.

I wanted to accept right there, but I still had requests out and so I needed time to be able to nudge.

Then came the longest ten days of my life.

I had several step asides throughout the week ranging in reasons from didn’t have time to read or didn’t feel passionately about the project to throw their hat into the ring. I then had one agent who read it and loved it and said she wanted to offer, but didn’t think she was the best agent to take it to market. She very graciously told me to go with the offering agent as this agent was just getting into YA and wanted to give me the best shot. It wasn’t until the very last day of my deadline that I got a call from a very amazing agent who has been in the industry a long time. Our call was almost an hour and I was beyond impressed with him and his vision for the book and my career. Both agent #2 and agent #1 had very similar revision ideas and it was absolutely not an easy decision, but in the end, I had to go with what my gut was telling me all along. So on Valentine’s Day (aww!) I accepted representation from Kirsten Carleton at Waxman Leavell.

I’m so incredibly excited to start this new phase of my career and roll up my sleeves and start revising my manuscript again!

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Right after I signed the contract!

And now for the thank you part of this speech (cue Oscar music):

I have so much to be thankful for, but want to give special shout outs to Ashley, Rachel and Alexa who let me show my crazy during this intense period in the query trenches and for somehow making me feel normal 🙂 To my amazing husband who saw my crazy, got scared, but still loved me. To the insanely supportive community of PW writers that I’ve been able to share this journey with! Our “secret” FB group has been a God send! And obviously thank you to  Trisha Leigh for taking on my MS and helping it get shiny enough to catch Kirsten’s eye! And finally, thank you Kirsten for taking a chance on me and believing in my writing! I think we are going to make a wonderful team and a force to be reckoned with!

And for the stats for those of you who love stats:

Queries sent: 25
Contests: 2
Requests: 26 — 11 cold query requests (7 fulls and 4 partials – 2 of which upgraded); 15 contest requests (all 15 were partials and 8 upgraded)
R&R: 1
Offers: 2

Total time in the Query Trenches: 4 1/2 months (2 months for the first round and then 2 1/2 months in round two)

In which I failed my book buying fast

Well…

I couldn’t make it. I tried SO incredibly hard to stick with my self-imposed book buying fast… but it just didn’t happen.

And you know what? There are worse things in life than not being able to make it through ten books before buying another.

Cheating on your taxes? That sucks. It will always catch up with you, so don’t do it.

Eating ice cream every night before bed when you’re trying to lose weight? Yup. You’ll definitely not hit your weight loss goal.

Saying you’re going to start giving your dog a weekly bath and have “forgotten” to do it for the last 4 weeks? Your failure is going to smell. Really. Really. Bad.

Buying two more books is just not the end of the world.

Especially when one of them is Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird… do research books even count? I think not.

And so what if I bought Maybe One Day by Melissa Kantor. MAYBE on that particular day, I needed to cry and so that book helped out those tears?

Now that I’m writing all this out, it’s obvious. I actually did not fail. I just “expanded the definition of unnecessary buying.”

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Nudging with an Offer of Representation

In light of so much good news happening with #PitchWars, I thought it might be great to do a post about nudging with an offer of representation!

There are tons of resources for this, which is where I pulled my info from (mainly HERE and HERE), so I’m not going to re-invent the wheel here and have nothing profound to add. I think one of the best posts on this is Dahlia’s, so go there for more detailed info!

What I will say is that nudging is exciting and dreadful at the same time.

I loved Kirsten, but I knew that I needed to be respectful of the other agents (and I had read over and over that agents don’t like it when you accept rep without giving them a shot to read/offer). Even then, those 10 days felt like SOOO long!

But it also feels good to finally put someone else on a deadline after languishing in the trenches with only vague time references on when you’ll hear back 🙂

Nudge for an agent who has your full:

Hi AGENT!

Thank you again for your interest in MANUSCRIPT. I just wanted to let you know that I’ve had an offer of representation and I’ve told the offering agent that I needed until DATE to consider.
If you’re also interested, could you please let me know your thoughts by DATE? 
Thank you so much!
Nudge for an agent who has your partial:

Hi AGENT!

Thank you again for your interest in MANUSCRIPT. I just wanted to let you know that I’ve had an offer of representation and I’ve told the offering agent that I needed until DATE to consider.
If you’re interested in continuing reading, could you please let me know your thoughts by DATE? I have attached the full for your convenience.
Thank you so much!
(P.S. This might be a little presumptuous to attach the full (I got contradicting advice on this), but I figured, why the heck not? If they are interested, it will save a back/forth, if not, they would have passed regardless.)
Nudge for an agent who has a query only:
Hi AGENT,

I know you may not have seen this query yet, but I wanted to reach out to you because I received an offer of representation today. I told the offering agent I’d get back to her/him by DATE so if this query seems like something you’d be interested in representing, I can give you until then with the full. However, I completely understand that you may not be able to rush.

Thank you for your time and consideration.
Gentle deadline reminder nudge:
Hi AGENT!
I just wanted to check in to see where you’re at with MANUSCRIPT and if you needed anything else from me. I really appreciate your taking the time to look at my MS, particularly on such a sped-up timeline.
(You may feel totally comfortable with just waiting until the last day and hoping all the agents remembered your deadline. I’m too much of a control freak and would rather get instant step asides than just never hear back, so I sent this last reminder 2 days before the deadline. An agent who is really interested is going to remember to get back to you, so this is honestly unnecessary, but writers are a paranoid bunch! In the end, every agent who told me they would get back to me, did.)
Best things about nudging?
  1. They don’t say “pass/reject” they say “Step aside” 🙂
  2. Your inbox is dinging a lot and it’s exciting
Bad thing:
  1. Getting a lot of rejections in a short amount of time. That’s not fun for anyone, even with an offer on the table. It can weirdly affect your confidence so you need to have a good group of support around you and keep reading your emails with the offering agent to remind you that you and your book are awesome! 🙂
  2. If you get another offer, having to tell someone who loves your book and believes in you, that you are choosing a different agent. That sucks. No getting around it and you’re going to feel bad about it, even if you love your chosen agent and have no regrets.
Random:
Some agents will ask who the offering agent is. Tell them! It’s definitely not something you need to keep a secret. I wouldn’t offer it up in the initial exchange, but if they ask, there’s no reason not to tell them.

Me Revealed…

I have some fun news I’m going to be announcing soon, but until then, I figured why not give you a scarily in-depth view of the way my mind works! 🙂 

ABOUT DESTINY

Q. WHAT IS YOUR BIRTHDATE?

A. I’m 31 years old (eeks!)

Q. PREVIOUS OCCUPATIONS

A. I’ve been a writer and copywriter for several years now, but I have worked in marketing/communications and was a legal assistant in college.

Q. FAVORITE JOB

A. I really loved being a legal assistant, but writing is something that is such a natural extension that I love it the most!

Q. HIGH SCHOOL AND/OR COLLEGE

A. I went to a small private school and then went to the University of Texas (Arlington)

Q. NAME OF YOUR FAVORITE COMPOSER OR MUSIC ARTIST?

A. Oh man, I’m so ridiculous because I’m going to say Sarah Mclachlan or Alanis Morrisette (which totally reveals my age)

Q. FAVORITE MOVIE

A. Impossible! (I love movies), but if I had to narrow it down: Star Wars (original trilogy), Willow and the Harry Potter series (which coincidentally all have Warwick Davis in them)

Q. FAVORITE TELEVISION SHOW

A. I loved Friday Night Lights and Parenthood, but current is GOT, Scandal and HGTV shows.

REVEALING QUESTIONS

Q. HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOUR LIFE IN ONLY 8 WORDS?

A. Happy. Full. Fun. Busy. Stretched. Loved. Kids.

Q. WHAT IS YOUR MOTTO OR MAXIM?

A. Be silly. Be Honest. Be kind. (Waldo Emerson quote)

Q. HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE PERFECT HAPPINESS?

A. When you push yourself to your next absolute best.

Q. WHAT’S YOUR GREATEST FEAR?

A. Falling off a boat in the middle of the ocean.

Q. IF YOU COULD BE ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW, WHERE WOULD YOU CHOOSE TO BE?

A. Either Trequanda, Italy or Brussels, Belgium

Q. WITH WHOM IN HISTORY DO YOU MOST IDENTIFY?

A. Any exhausted mother who struggles with the balance of expectation versus personal achievement.

Q. WHICH LIVING PERSON DO YOU MOST ADMIRE?

A. Sheryl Sandberg (COO of Facebook) and JK Rowling – I mean, seriously? These women kick butt!

Q. WHAT ARE YOUR MOST OVERUSED WORDS OR PHRASES?

A. For reals. So true. Seriously.

Q. WHAT DO YOU REGRET MOST?

A. When I spread myself too thin. Happens more than I would like. I inevitably disappoint people and I HATE that.

Q. IF YOU COULD ACQUIRE ANY TALENT, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

A. Dancing! I wish I could dance and try out for SYTYCD and wow everyone.

Q. WHAT IS YOUR GREATEST ACHIEVEMENT?

A. Writing my first book.

Q. WHAT’S YOUR GREATEST FLAW?

A. Not connecting emotionally with people.

Q. WHAT’S YOUR BEST QUALITY?

A. I am incredibly loyal.

Q. IF YOU COULD BE ANY PERSON OR THING, WHO OR WHAT WOULD IT BE?

A. In a different life I would have gone to law school and become a lawyer.

Q. WHAT TRAIT IS MOST NOTICEABLE ABOUT YOU?

A. That I speak my mind.

Q. WHO IS YOUR FAVORITE FICTIONAL HERO?

A. Edmond Pevensie

Q. WHO IS YOUR FAVORITE FICTIONAL VILLAIN?

A. Lord Voldemort

Q. IF YOU COULD MEET ANY HISTORICAL CHARACTER, WHO WOULD IT BE AND WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO HIM OR HER?

A. I would have to say FDR. I would like to know what he was thinking in the months leading up to the attack on Pearl Harbor… OR John Quincy Adams and talk to him about his time as Secretary of State…

Q. WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST PET PEEVE?

A. When I can’t figure out how to get to a place I want to be.

Q. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE OCCUPATION, WHEN YOU’RE NOT WRITING?

A. Being a mom

Q. WHAT’S YOUR FANTASY PROFESSION?

A. Senator

Q. WHAT 3 PERSONAL QUALITIES ARE MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU?

A. Loyalty, Thoughtfulness. People who like wine.

Q. IF YOU COULD EAT ONLY ONE THING FOR THE REST OF YOUR DAYS, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

A. salsa and chips.

Q. WHAT ARE YOUR 5 FAVORITE SONGS?

A. No possible way. They change on a month to month basis.

ON BOOKS AND WRITING

Q. WHO ARE YOUR FAVORITE AUTHORS?

A. Again… seriously? Rainbow Rowell, Terry Brooks, JK Rowling, Beth Revis, Francine Rivers… I just have to stop. There are too many.

Q. WHAT ARE YOUR 5 FAVORITE BOOKS OF ALL TIME?

A. Harry Potter trilogy, Redeeming Love, Eleanor & Park, The Chronicles of Narnia, etc…. (this list could never end)

Q. IS THERE A BOOK YOU LOVE TO REREAD?

A. The Deathly Hallows

Q. DO YOU HAVE ONE SENTENCE OF ADVICE FOR NEW WRITERS?

A. Persistence in the face of rejection.